Sharing something that I never have publicly:
Few know that I was abused as a child and to keep from losing my mind, I would turn to the music in my head while the fighting between my parents went on for years. Abuse was physical and mental attacks from my drunk father mostly. Mom was often drunk but she wasn’t abusive. My father was a WWII veteran and times were very different then, but when dad wasn’t drunk, he was a good man.
But when he was drunk, and it was far too often, he would tear up the house, and hit us boys and mom. His voice would make us all tremble and it was also hypnotizing. Mom always got the worse end of abuse though and was often bruised and once had 3 broken ribs.
Both parents have passed and may they rest in peace, I loved them very much despite it all.
I believe without a doubt that music has saved my life and why I am so much into it still today.
Felt the need to share that, thanks for listening.
Ruth Cole Hargrave – Just want to tell you about the time we were all in the motor home and your dad (my brother in law) began hitting you and yelling about an attic window you had left open ! I was driving cause they were drinking ! I slammed on the brake and yelled STOP ! or you can get out of here ! Let me tell you , he looked at me like a wild man and said “OK!” The rest of our visit was peaceful. I’m sorry we didn’t live closer , maybe it would have helped! Just to let you know I am very proud of you and am so glad you have turned out so well! Love you very much Walt ! ! ! !
And then this bombshell that I didn’t know about my father and he didn’t know either until very late in life:
Ruth Cole Hargrave – I have been thinking about this all evening and want you to remember – your dad was not a Hargrave! His mother had been raped by five young boys – and your dad were the result! Hargrave was her boyfriend and adopted him! This being said, he had a difficult childhood, his step father William showed attention to his biological kids Bill and Jerry, but he was the outsider. When I hear this from an older cousin, I told your father about it the last time I saw him before he passed. You know what he said? “I always wondered why my dad hated me, wow now I know, thanks!”